Pregnancy tips to feel better… Because growing a human is hard

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Don’t get me wrong.  I am very blessed to have been able to have my babies.  Beyond measure.  Pregnancy is amazing and wonderful, and there are really no words for it.  That being said, it’s not always rainbows and sunshine every day.  That’s just a fact of life.  It’s painful and scary and sometimes you just want someone to say “want me to rub your feet?”.  And sometimes you just want to be grumpy and complain about what hurts.  So this post is my way of showing support, from one pregnant mom to another.  Sometimes there’s nothing you can do about those aches and pains, nausea and hormones, but here are some things that might help more than the typical “this too shall pass” response…

  1. Chocolate.  It will make you feel better if you let it.  Forget all that BS about “don’t use this as an excuse to eat for two”.  Go get you a cookie.  You’re growing another eyeball in there.
  2. Hot bath.  Don’t get it scalding hot… use some common sense.  But throw some epsom salts in there and relax.  Water makes you feel weightless, for one thing.  Hot baths normally help me with aches and pains – even if it’s only temporary.
  3. Coffee.  Don’t freak out.  You can have one cup every morning.  And then you can drink decaf and pretend it’s the real thing.  It’s better than nothing!
  4. Cry.  Pregnancy is the only time you actually have an excuse to cry and throw a fit whenever you want.  It’s his fault for getting the wrong brand of cereal anyway. Go ahead and let it out, and then take a nap. You’re growing tiny fingernails.
  5. Did I mention taking a nap?  I know this isn’t always an option, but if you do get a chance, TAKE A NAP.  You’re growing a second heart inside of your body.  Take a freaking nap.
  6. Me time.  Sit down, read a book or something.  Paint your nails if it makes you feel better, or not.  Scroll on Facebook for a while.  But enjoy some peace and quiet where you don’t have to do anything.
  7. Quit listening to everybody else.  Follow the doc’s list of do’s and don’t’s, follow your own mother’s instinct (yes, you have it already) and stay off the Internet.  You’ve got this.
  8. Relax and let shit go.  By that I mean quit stressing so much about cleaning and trying to do everything and be perfect.  You’re growing a baby!  Another brain.  A whole respiratory system.  Tiny fingers and tiny toes.  You probably can’t sleep, you’re often uncomfortable.  And all the painful and crappy symptoms that nobody understands.  On top of it you walk like a penguin and you can’t drink.  If you want a piece of cake, you deserve it!

Just remember, it really is more than worth it.  And even though you feel like you’ve been pregnant for 10 years, it will be over before you know it.  Just give yourself some credit and cut yourself some slack… You’re growing a baby and it’s hard work.  🙂

Why my family of 5 went Minimalist – and we are never going back

Let me start by saying this.  Before I watched the Minimalism documentary (which btw, I normally really don’t like documentaries and refuse to watch them with my husband) I didn’t know much about minimalism besides a few things I’ve seen on the internet… Which made it seem more like a style and a fad (white walls, modern expensive furniture) than anything else.  I thought it sounded dumb.

But by the 1st 20 minutes of the video, I was hooked, and we had already made our decision.

Very basic summary:  Minimalism is about focusing less on materialistic things and more on family and experiences.  That’s really the point.  You can actually keep whatever you want, and there’s no set rules you have to follow.  It’s not about the label.  It’s just about intentionally thinking about everything you have, and asking yourself how much value each thing actually has to you.  If it’s something that brings you joy, or you actually need it, keep it.  But if you only have it because you would feel guilty getting rid of it, or because “it’s a set”, or because society has told you that you need it… Toss it.

You’d be surprised how much crap you have that you don’t really care about.  And also how much impact that one thing might be having on your life.

Think of how much money you could save… Not just on impulse spending, but on subscriptions, DEBT, even monthly bills and utilities… Do you really need “unlimited everything”?  Or that storage unit?  Or DirecTV?

All of this stuff is designed to keep you inside.  Entertained.  Sheep.

Imagine if you got rid of everything… You would spend more time outside.  Doing stuff!  Isn’t that exactly what you want for your kids anyway?

Moms… Think of how much CLEANING you could cut out of your day… I know you’re scared to even let that tiny ray of hope enter your mind, but I’m being serious.  If you could just cut your dishes and laundry in HALF, wouldn’t you jump on that?  We’ve kept everything we need, and what we actually want to wear.  We got rid of the things we only wore because they were there.  We cut down on dishes by only keeping what we need for the day… Which means rinsing your cup and using it all day.  Most of your dishes are in the sink because something else was already dirty.  Think about that.

Also, the toys and clutter… At 7 months pregnant, I had really gotten fed up with picking stuff up off the floor.  All.  Day.  Long.  But since we have gotten rid of everything they don’t actually play with often, and everything else we didn’t need in the house… I have so much less to straighten up around the house.  And it’s easier to get the kids to clean up their messes, too.

Not to mention, my house looks cleaner.  It took a little while to get used to it looking so empty (compared to before)… But now it’s so relaxing.  My office is bare, except for my desk and lamp (and the window).  It’s my favorite room in the house.  I’m taking that as a good sign.

A big problem today is, we live our lives looking too much at everyone else, and what they have… Instead of being content with what we have.  We look at popular styles, home décor shows, how big our neighbors’ houses are… And we feel less because we don’t have what they have.  We see buying new stuff and having MORE as a sign of success.  And I’m tired of it.  I don’t even like decorations… All the clutter on my counters has always bugged me.  I’m finally giving myself permission to feel that way and get rid of it.

As for “minimalism”.  It’s a lifestyle that lets you focus on what YOU want out of life, and not what anyone else says you should want.  It’s more about experiences, teaching your kids what’s important in life.  Letting them know that it’s okay to have hopes and dreams.  It’s about LESS STRESS and less feeling so overwhelmed… And as a mom, with two kids and about to have a newborn baby… That’s the biggest thing for me.

MY NEW BLOG!!

​First post – Yay!  I’m so excited that I’m doing what I’ve always wanted to do… for real this time.  I’ve made several blog mistakes in the past, and it never really clicked with me.  This time it clicks!  I’m finally confident about it because I’m not taking myself so seriously, I’m not worried about what other people think and I have TONS of ideas about things I want to write about.

So welcome to my site – Super Tired Wondermom.

Chances are if you’re a mom, you’re super freaking tired too.  But you keep going, you keep washing those hellish damn dishes and laundry, you keep your kids alive and reasonably happy and that makes you a wondermom too!

I’m not going to pretend that I’m going to have any ground-breaking earth-shattering posts to change the world with, but every one of us has something unique and awesome to share, so I’m going to share mine.  Feel free to like and share any of my posts, sign up for my emails, and follow me on here or social media!  It’s about time all of us moms showed each other a little support.  🙂