Motherhood is amazing, beautiful, wonderful. It’s the best job in the world, and you love it more than anything. It’s a blessing, and you’re thankful for every moment of it. There’s nothing like it.
But it’s also hard. The day to day is hard, and when shit happens, which it absolutely does, it’s hard. And it’s okay.
There might be days where you have scrubbed and swept all day, picked up countless toys, made a hundred snacks and sandwiches and meals, mopped up tears and broken up fights, walked that baby for hours and hours out of the day… and then asked yourself why you can’t stay on top of the chores.
You’re not the only one who is absolutely sick of laundry and dishes.
Or frustrated because you stayed up all night getting your house spotless, and someone just left their shoes in the middle of the floor, and spilled something all over the table.
Or lonely if you stay at home with toddlers all day and you’re starving for adult conversation.
You’re not the only one who forgot how to socialize.
And you’re not the only one who is ready to lose it if your child gets one more attitude with you, or tells you no to your face, or completely ignores you.
It’s hard, ya’ll. I know it is. It’s not supposed to be easy, and I don’t know a single person who never has a cloudy day.
I know you feel a little guilty for feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, lonely, worn out, or just sad. You’re a mother, you give and give until you sometimes feel like there’s nothing else to give. Then you give more. Even when it comes to your thoughts, you want to be the perfect mother. Not really because of any standards of society, but because you love your kids more than anything in the freaking universe, and you know they deserve the world.
But there is not a single perfect mother in the world. And God chose YOU. He gave those babies to you for a reason. Don’t doubt yourself.
No matter what some people might say, it’s okay to feel like it’s hard. Because it is. Nothing worth doing comes easily, and motherhood is an extremely challenging and rewarding job. Not just physically. But as children grow up, they start reaching for independence, a little bit at a time. Sometimes it’s frustrating, and sometimes it just hurts. And we can’t even show it. That’s hard. Then you’ve got so many people in the world who just want to tell you you’re doing it wrong. Most of the time we try not to care what people think, but when it comes to parenting, it’s different.
And then there are times where you just don’t know what to do. I firmly believe most of us are just winging it, half the time, at least.
So at the end of the day, pour you a glass of wine, take a deep breath and cut yourself a break. You’re doing an awesome job!